It is not clear to me what the problem is.
I do know that if you send many invitations, the second invitation will negate the first one, the third will negate the second and so on. When you invite someone, you should give them time to check your reputation with repbot, so they do not play with droppers. This is one of my pet peeves. This is what happens when someone invites you, you accept, and then get a message saying that person didn't invite you. A very annoying situation.
This may not have anything to do with the problem you are experiencing.

In kibitz, the name is not important, since it goes to anyone within the game, either playing or watching.
Perhaps you can explain more.

socksey
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